Season 2

Wednesday 23rd June 2021
 
Dr Philippa Kaye
The M Word
Everything You Need to Know About the Menopause

In this episode, I am in conversation with Dr Philippa Kaye, GP and author. 

Philippa has a weekly column in Woman magazine and you may recognise her from her regular appearances on ITV’s, This Morning. 

The M Word is a complete one-stop guide to the Perimenopause and Menopause, covering everything from understanding symptoms and managing relationships to figuring out which treatments really work.

We have dedicated this episode to the complex and controversial subject of HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy). Please join us as we discuss:-

  • Why Philippa felt compelled to write The M Word
  • Myth-busting the flawed study from 20 years ago that linked HRT to breast cancer
  • The risks and the benefits of HRT explained 
  • When to start HRT and when to stop
  • Vaginal Oestrogen
  • Why HRT might not work be working for you
  • Side effects of HRT
  • Libido – it’s not just hormones that could be affecting your sex drive- Looking at Menopause as a ‘long term oestrogen deficiency’
  • Why HRT is not one size fits all
  • How to get the most from your GP and your surgery
  • Complimentary therapies
  • Sequential and Continuous Combined HRT
  • Post Menopausal bleeding
  • Smears – the importance and how to make them a better experience
  • Don’t think you are a candidate for HRT? The importance of discussing your eligibility and your options with your GP
  • How do I know that I’m ready for HRT?
  • The first signs of Perimenopause
  • Premature Menopause.
  • An empowering Menopause anecdote.

 

Dr Philippa’s book choices

Everything That Makes Us Human by Jay Jayamohan

The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse by Charlie Mackesy

 

You will find these and a selection of my favourite books here 

Wednesday 30th June 2021
 
Jackie Lynch
The Happy Menopause
Smart Nutrition to Help You Flourish

In this episode, I am joined by Jackie Lynch author of The Happy Menopause and host of The Happy Menopause Podcast. 

Jackie discovered the power of nutrition 15 years ago when she followed personalised nutritional advice and experienced first-hand the dramatic changes in her energy well being and performance. This led her to give up her senior corporate role and study at the Institute for Optimum Nutrition. 

As a Registered Nutritional Therapist, she founded the WellWellWell Clinic providing expert advice and specialising in women’s health and nutrition.

The Happy Menopause is a stress-busting, hormone balancing approach to Menopause. 

Join Jackie and me as we discuss:-

  • Why stress is the enemy of the Menopause
  • Why adrenal health is so vital
  • Nutrition 101 – How and why we need to keep our blood sugar balanced
  • insulin
  • Managing our symptoms through diet 
  • How to manage our weight
  • What we should be eating
  •  Refined, hidden sugars
  •  Our secret weapon balancing protein and fibre
  • The impact of alcohol
  • The way Menopause is experienced in different cultures due to their diet
  • Menopause friendly family meals
  • Don’t feel guilty about using frozen foods!

 

Jackie’s book choice

The Age Well Plan by Susan Saunders

 

You will find this and a selection of my favourite books here 

Wednesday 7th July  2021
 
Kim McCabe
From Daughter to Woman
Parenting girls safely through their teens

In this episode, I have the pleasure of talking to Kim McCabe, author of From Daughter to Woman’  a guide to parenting girls safely through their teens.

Kim is a child development expert and founder-director of the non-profit organisation Rites for Girls.

She studied psychology at Cambridge University, before training as a counsellor for distressed teens and has spent thirty years working preventatively to make girls’ journey through adolescence safer, kinder and better supported. 

A mother of three, Kim believes we can each make a difference; by creating community and circles of support, with adults taking responsibility for guiding tomorrow’s women, a grounded revolution changing the world for everyone.

Join Kim and me as we discuss:-

  • The importance of the puberty rite of passage if we went to have happy, healthy young adults join our adult communities and the impact of not recognising this importance of this critical stage of life.
  • Why we should be asking our young girls what they think about becoming women and listening to their answers.
  • Why so many young girls don’t name their mothers as future role models and what we can do about that.
  • Children don’t do what we say, they do what we do. 
  • Menarche, Pregnancy, Menopause – the three stages in a woman’s life where she is called into action.
  • Introducing the gift of the menstrual cycle to our girls to educate them and so alleviate any nervousness they may have around starting their periods.
  • Our culture doesn’t honour the cycle, but if we can menstruate well and have healthy and happy cycles we will enter into Menopause in a healthier way
  • Menopause and raising children.
  • Consent. Why we need to teach our children to trust their feelings and their instinct rather than their thoughts and how this can help to keep them safe.
  • The increase in anxiety amongst young girls and how that shows up in their behaviour.
  • Why as adults we should not be ignoring feelings of unhappiness and what happens when we do.
  • Our cycle Post Menopause.
  • As a mother how you can co-create a Rite of Passage with your daughter 
  • Creating a ‘village’ – the importance of adults in a young person’s life

Kim’s book choice

The Happy Manifesto – by Henry Stewart

 

You will find this and a selection of my favourite books here 

 

Wednesday 14th July  2021
 
Sophie Fletcher

Mindful Menopause

How to have a calm and positive Menopause

In this episode, I am joined by Sophie Fletcher clinical hypnotherapist and author of Mindful Menopause.

Sophie specialises in women’s wellbeing at transitional stages of their lives and her focus is the body and mind connection, exploring thoughts and feelings that may arise at times of vulnerability giving practical, everyday tools that make a difference.

We are controlled by the challenging cultural narrative that surrounds Menopause and Perimenopause, join Sophie and me as we discuss how changing our perception and our mindset can have such a huge impact on our wellbeing.

In this episode you will learn:-

  • How to change your perception of Menopause
  • How to take back control 
  • How learned behaviours are based on environment
  • How to re-write your story and plan your Menopause
  • How to re-frame thoughts and experiences so you can approach your symptoms in a more positive way
  • How to manage anxiety
  • Why Menopause is an opportunity to learn about yourself in a deeper way
  • The How… tackling those unconscious blocks that stop you doing what you know you should be doing 
  • How to be in control of your choices 
  • Why broadening your knowledge and understanding of Menopause is the key to a Merry Menopause
  • Why mindset work is much simpler than you may think
  • Why our history and culture has re-written the reverence that comes with being an older woman
  • Menopause can be a lonely time, why it’s so important to find and connect with women who are having a similar experience
  • The importance of seeking out those that are approaching their Menopause transition in a positive way
  • Why you should plan your Menopause like you plan work and personal goals
  • How do you want to be when you are in your 60s and 70s? Why we need to lay the foundations now
  • Hair Loss – Sophie talks about her own experience and shares her advice. 

 

Sophie’s Book Choice

 Sum: Forty Tales from the Afterlives by David Eagleman

 

You will find this and a selection of my favourite books here 

 

You can download 10 of Sophie’s meditations for FREE here 

Wednesday 28th July  2021
 
Emma Bardwell

The Perimenopause Solution

Take Control of You Hormones Before They Take Control of You

My guest on the penultimate episode of S2 is Emma Bardwell registered nutritionist and member of the British Menopause Society. Her evidence-based approach, coupled with an ongoing interest in Perimenopause and Menopause has made her one of the go-to names in women’s health.

Emma is deeply anti-fad and doesn’t care for restriction, believing in positive rather than perfect nutrition and together with Dr Shahzadi Harper she has written today’s book choice, The Perimenopause Solution.

Join us as we discuss:

  • Pro ageing and “Tweakments” – being unapologetic and acknowledging that our appearance does change as our collagen starts to deplete.
  • Why saying ‘no’ should be on prescription for Perimenopausal women.
  • Stress – one of the main drivers behind our symptoms and how it can override the positive effects of HRT.
  • The rise of eating disorders in midlife – the importance of knowing what to eat and how to exercise.
  • Auditing our life – removing toxic habits and toxic people.
  • Alcohol – the pros and the cons.
  • Why our metabolism changes – the impact that has on what we eat and drink.
  • The benefits of therapy and coaching – dealing with feelings that may surface and the changes that are happening.
  • The next generation – we are setting the example for them, let’s show today’s young women how utterly brilliant we are.
  • Understanding the gut/brain connection – how crucial this is in Perimenopause
  • Listening to our bodies – being intuitive and picking up on the signals and clues we are being sent.
  • Make change if it is calling but don’t act on impulse! – the importance of talking things through with friends or seeking out a supportive community online. 

 

Emma’s Book Choices

Dr Lisa Mosconi – The XX Brain
Kimberly Wilson – How To Build A Healthy Brain

 

Find out more about Emma Bardwell here

Wednesday 4th August  2021
 
Sarah Chadwick

The Sweetness of Venus

A History of The Clitoris

My last guest of Season 2 is the wonderful Sarah Chadwick author of The Sweetness of Venus. A History of the Clitoris.

Challenging today’s definition of female sexuality, The Sweetness of Venus is a provocative, straight-talking and rigorously researched history exposing the denial, misunderstanding and brutality endured by this taboo body part.

Sarah has a teaching background is currently a guest researcher at Chicago’s LOYOLA University, splitting her life between the US and UK. She has been described as “an articulate and compassionate spokeswoman for a new generation of women”

In her own words Sarah “Wanted her book to be pleasurable like good sex. For it to be friendly, funny, compassionate, inclusive of men and a bridge between academic research and knowledge. A book that people would pick up and have pleasure reading.” – I think she achieved it all. 

Join us as we discuss:- 

  • The historic shame around women’s sexual pleasure 
  • The complicated and conflicting history of the clitoris
  • The Victorians – the fear and threat around women having sexual agency
  • 1844 – A breakthrough in Clitoral recognition!
  • The tip of the Clitoral iceberg – do you really know what it looks like and just how big it is?
  • Think you know the meaning of the world ‘frigid’, think again
  • Freud and his part in defining that there is a difference between a vaginal and Clitoral orgasm.
  • Historically Dr’s putting forward the idea that proper sexual function was through penetrative sex only and any other way was a treatable physiological disorder
  • Why we need to broaden the definition of what quantifies as sex to become more inclusive and healthier for everybody
  • Today’s teenagers having more oral and anal sex than ever before in the name of ‘not having sex’ 
  • The difference in sex education in the UK and the US and why we are still not teaching it right. 
  • The narrative that women are wired for reproduction and men are wired for sex
  • Shere Hite’s groundbreaking survey in the 70s about women’s sexual pleasure and desire. 
  • Sarah’s own frustrating experience with three gynaecologists trying to get her orgasm back post menopause
  • The effect the dominant narrative that women’s sexual function is purely for reproduction has on Menopausal women stepping into their sexual power 
  • How the taboo around reproduction vs pleasure has been so incredibly damaging to women in their 50s and beyond
  • Viagra – *eye roll * men haven’t had to fight for their continued sexual function. 
  • Bicycle design, train travel, sewing machines and their connection to the female orgasm and masturbation!

 

Sarah’s book choices

Invisible Women – Caroline Crado Perez

The World’s Wife – Carol Ann Duffy

 

You can find more of Sarah on Instagram @its.Personalgirls